Wednesday, July 18, 2012

"Yaya is finished taking care of me?"

Around a month ago, Marion's yaya of one year left for a 3-day leave to attend the funeral of her sister. Three days stretched on to... well, forever. Yaya and I mutually agreed that it was time for her to move on. She's a senior citizen who confessed that she "felt exhausted in mind and body." and needed to attend to many family and personal matters. Because we didn't really plan for her employment with us to end, Marion didn't get to say good bye. From three days of "Yaya'll be back soon", it became "Yaya's not here... She is with her son and daughters... Her house got broken and she needs to take care of it." For weeks now we are going through the process of letting go and moving on. I am heartbroken because my daughter, as young as she may still be, just had her heart broken.

The separation from her yaya is made even more traumatic with new helpers/yaya's in the house. Everyone else is new. I've been at my wits' end trying to ease both the new yaya and Marion toward each other, reassuring the new yaya that this is all temporary (the rejection, the pushing & testing of boundaries & patience). And, balancing that with dealing with a toddler's anxiety, anger and sadness. It's been tricky-- offering sympathy and instilling discipline (drawing the line when enough is enough).

I've always believed in a child's resilience and am relieved that things are getting better. Marion's now comfortable enough to lean on her yaya while watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. Yaya's more confident now in dealing with her.

One evening, as her way of accepting things, she grew pensive then asked me, "Yaya Fe is finished taking care of me?" And I nodded, "Yes, darling."

These days, she'll still sometimes mention her old yaya, "Mommy, did you see the owl?It's like Yaya Fe, with eyeglasses.", but without being sad about it anymore. 

There have been many changes around the house. Among the most significant ones are (I caved in.) she started watching tv (Nick Jr. & Disney Jr.) ;-p So that, and she has also realized that her parents are the ones who are constant in her life and so has warmed up to her dad more. :-D

* Photo was taken in Burgoo. I was drawing a map (ala Dora the Explorer) and then she asked me to include a drawing of Yaya's house and Yaya.

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Marion's first haircut

July 14, 2012
At 2 years & almost 9 months ;D, Marion got her first haircut. 

I think my mom has been suggesting to bring Marion for a haircut since around the time Marion turned one. I didn't really feel the need to do so. (That's because I get my hair cut so rarely and think that long hair is the easiest to manage, that is, just tie it up. ;p) But last Saturday, Dean needed one and so Kid's Salon (3/F Rustan's Makati) was one of our stops that day. That would be the second time Marion's ever stepped in a salon. (The first time was around a year ago, but she just went in to pick me up.)

There were two other children (both boys) getting their hair trimmed when we got in so both Marion and Dean settled in those "fancy" chairs to wait for their turn. I tried to get Marion to watch the barber cut the hair of the other kids. She wasn't interested. She preferred to play with her cousin and watch cartoons. My plan was just to get her acquainted with a salon and take her back another time. But my mom, who was the one who spoke to the receptionist, wasn't going to let this opportunity pass. She got a slot for Marion along with Dean. And so, when the two other kids were finished, it was Dean and Marion's turn.

We picked her up. Her eyes still glued to Alvin & the Chimpmunks. They placed a cape around her. Still watched Dave Seville in a hospital bed and the chipmunks trying to open a bag of cheese balls. (By this time, I'm surprised and relieved that she's not fussing. :D)

She didn't even mind the hair dryer which she doesn't like (when I use it at home which is also very rarely ;p)

This was the most magulo that she got. 

They had pictures of kids on the wall with the labels for the different hair styles. Styles like mushroom, horizontal bob, hip hop... I can't remember what they call the hair style they gave Marion, but can I call it "apple" like the hair cut I used to get as a kid? ;p

Right after her hair cut, my Mom got her some clips. 

I really don't know many practices and beliefs. Is there supposed to be a good luck day for hair cuts? And, um, what's that again about the kid getting the traits of the first person who cuts their hair? I do hope this guy has nothing but admirable traits. ;-p

What practices/beliefs do you guys have about first haircuts? Marco's yet to have his first so I have another chance to do it. Haha.

(It's my turn to get a long over due haircut. Will make time for it soon.)

Monday, July 16, 2012

Marco: 4 months

July 10, 2012 at Dr. Pia's clinic
     Weight: 13 lbs 13.5 oz
     Height: 24 3/4 in
     Head: 41 cm

Immunizations given: DTaP Polio HiB & Rotarix

No major issues except for his skin which we're still working on.

From my calendar:
     *     June 24, 2012- flipped from tummy to back
     *     June 29, 2012- first time I saw him roll from back to tummy (yaya says he did it yesterday)
Rolling isn't perfect yet though. See--

He's starting to make adorable baby giggling (sa Bisaya pa, "agik-ik") sounds. Watch and listen--